Hi sass_my_frass.I know you love your mum (mom).But eventually our parents have to grow up too.Most of us cope with one or two crises at a time but a whole bunch,percieved or real,can suck the juice out of our batteries.Take care of yourself first, then can you get mum to her GP to diagnose whether the menopause needs to be addressed or if depression is the main thing.
By the way,have you thought about maternity bras? What if you let yourself go and need bigger and bigger cups? Don't you think of these things? PETE.
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My mother's meltdown
by sass_my_frass inokay, another self-indulgent post from sass about my mother.
this one's a keeper, it's today's cellphone text war.
a bit of background; she's had the book study moved from her place as her conscience doesn't permit her to have it there while she's still in contact with me, her disfellowshipped daughter.
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there may be many like defd
by justicehope ini am a bit nervous making a reply.
i find it a bit challenging to gather my thoughts and express them in the written forum, but her goes!
i have been coming to this site for years.
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.....neither hot nor cold I will vomit you out of my mouth....... Limping upon two opinions....etc.
The belief in a black and white world eventually fades into full colour as you age.This is why it took me 42 years to make sure of what I believed.Am I going to beat myself up over my wasted life?I think I've spent ENOUGH years doing that.
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why do people wanna join the jehovah witnesses group
by force ini dont get it.. .
they dont celbrate xmas, new year, birthdays, easter, valentine day.
they only can mix with other jw.
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do they like to suffer?
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Another newbie
by jessthebull ini just wanted to introduce myself, i have been lurking around for a while reading posts and identifying with so many of the experiences within them.
i have only stopped going to the meetings in the last year and it is only in the last couple of months that i have really started to research this "religion" that has been such a huge part of my life.
i dont live at home any more but am still in regular contact with my jw family and one or two friends.
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Welcome jessthebull from another newbie from the land of the long white cloud.
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Huge shock!
by Crumpet ini just got a major shock.
i can't believe the new levels of cruelty possible within families who are jws.. a friend on this board who i've known since i was a baby practically has managed to get me a picture of my little sister who i haven't seen for 8 years - the one who i've mentioned my dad said was working on the bethel quick build team.
the one who i've described my fears that she and my younger sister are staying single until armageddon.
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I hope it helps to know that many of us have been there too. We all cope with the emptyness differently.I comisserate with you. Two of my brothers have got married that I didn't hear about until after the event and sadly to say also that both my nana and grandma, as well as an uncle also died and were buried long before I found out. With hubby, we turned up to his mothers funeral and asked if his grandma was coming only to be told that she died a year earlier.And we havn't been d'f!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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What Did YOU Give Up For The "Truth"???
by minimus indid you forfeit a college education, a great paying job which would've kept you from the meetings, a career, a trade, your loved ones, a vacation, etc.
so that you could be a good little witness?
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I gave up a sense of self worth and my football mates to please somebody/something? Oh,and to travel to the UK for a trial with Arsenal when I was 17/18.Now I'm bald and slow.
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Nowhere else to go
by joelbear inthere is really nowhere else for me to post about what goes on inside me.
i know that my problems aren't all because i was a witness.
the agony in my mind has led me to a psychiatrist.. he has diagnosed me with cyclothymic mood disorder, a milder form.
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Good morning from down here joelbear.Yes,you are right.It is surprisingly difficult to kill yourself and in fact many people make a terrible botch of it.You said you 'cut on' yourself.Do you mean you cut yourself on your body as punishment?Pete
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Newly freed
by one of 12 ini have been viewing this site for the past three weeks or so and relate to alot thats been said.
i was born into the organisation, in a family of twelve children.
married for 22 years with 6 kids of our own.
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Thanks for the warm welcome, almost overwhelming. To fwfacts; no I'm not d'f. I was just looking after a sick hubby(severe depression) and six young children 1/2 hour from KH, on a sickness benefit, and was too exhausted to make all the meetings. One day I got a phone call from my mother which was nothing short of abusive, accusing me of attention seeking because there was nothing wrong with my hubby that she could see. You see we had lived 1400 km away and we had travelled to their home town for some support that they had promised. It took us two years to save up to return to our own home again.All this time i was getting to at least one meeting a week with most of the kids and had even pioneered one month during that time. When we returned to our own home, we left without telling my Mum and Dad. Every time we had been to visit them my mum would get me upset with all the things I was doing wrong and what the kids and hubby should and shouldn't be doing. I had kept in touch with one sister who has been d'f but reinstated since we moved back but that has dried up also. "You will know my disciples if they have love among themselves" yeah right!
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family outcast
by KimKat inmy sister (inactive) called me yesterday to tell me that our mom had sent her.
a copy of an advice column.
the column was about a daughter that the family.
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My family of mum, dad, six sisters, five brothers and their partners have all shunned my imediate family and most of them are elders, ministerial servants or poineers. It hurts heaps to know thats there's not much you can do if you want to be honest to yourself. Up until 3 weeks ago I found it terribly lonely but this site gives me a glimmer of hope.
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Newly freed
by one of 12 ini have been viewing this site for the past three weeks or so and relate to alot thats been said.
i was born into the organisation, in a family of twelve children.
married for 22 years with 6 kids of our own.
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I have been viewing this site for the past three weeks or so and relate to alot thats been said. I was born into the organisation, in a family of twelve children. Married for 22 years with 6 kids of our own. My family and I have been shunned by my family for over 6 years now because they don't understand mental illness. For sometime now I have felt that there was something amiss but have made excuses for their conduct for long enough. I was concerned that someone would recognise who I was from my login name but what the heck.